You're ready to begin your next chapter - you just don't know how.
Does this sound like you?
You’re replaying conversations, decisions, and moments from the marriage on a loop, trying to figure out what you missed or what this says about you.
You’re questioning your judgment, your identity, and your ability to trust yourself or attach again.
You feel raw, unsteady, or emotionally hijacked in ways that don’t feel familiar to you and mess with daily life.
You want to feel capable and strong again but you've hit a wall in your personal processing.
Individual Therapy for Divorce will get you out of survival mode and back into yourself.
EFIT for Divorce: Coming Back to Yourself
Individual Therapy for Divorce in
Newton, Massachusetts
Divorce pulls you out of your center.
Decisions that once felt instinctive suddenly feel impossible. Your confidence wavers. Your inner compass spins. You may know what you should do, yet feel strangely disconnected from what actually feels right.
Emotionally Focused Individual Therapy (EFIT) works because it brings you back into relationship with your inner world - the place where all meaningful decisions are made.
In the chaos and pain of divorce, many people lose access to that internal knowing. Emotions become loud, tangled, or shut down altogether. Fear and self-doubt take the wheel. EFIT doesn’t ask you to override these responses or think your way out of them. Instead, I help you slow down enough to gain the wisdom from them.
Together, we gently enter the places that hurt - the moments you avoid, the reactions that surprise you, the grief and fear that sit just beneath the surface. To clear the emotional cobwebs that are keeping you stuck.
Together, we make room for the ache of what was lost and the disorientation of what’s forming. We work with the moments you feel pulled back into old dynamics, old fears, old self-doubt, and we help your body learn that you are not there anymore.
I want to help you reconnect with your wants, your preferences, your limits - so you start feeling anchored inside yourself again.
EFIT helps you rebuild that anchor.
This is Your Moment.
Even a chosen divorce (and especially a contentious one) splits time into before and after, and leaves your nervous system stranded in between.
You don’t heal this by powering through.
You heal it by being led through the chambers of your heart.
Let me walk with you on your journey to clarity, self-trust, and a life that feels like it belongs to you again.
FAQs about Individual Therapy for Divorce in Newton, Massachusetts
I chose the divorce. Why does it still hurt this much?
Because attachment loss doesn’t follow logic. Choosing the end does not protect your nervous system. You're unwinding the attachment thread and it hurts. Therapy will give you time and a supportive person (me!) to lean on while you grieve.
What if I feel embarrassed by how much I’m struggling?
Most people get blindsided by how intense divorce feels. Struggling doesn’t mean you’re weak. It doesn’t mean you’re failing. It means you survived something that shook your world - and now you’re learning how to stand back up, stronger and wiser than before.
Can this help if my ex is still very present or high-conflict?
Yes. EFIT helps you take back your emotional power. Even when your ex is boundary pushing, unpredictable, or demanding, this work trains your nervous system to stay steady, your mind to stay clear, and your heart to stay in your control. You don’t have to be hijacked by their chaos - you can respond instead of reacting. Therapy will show you your true agency.
Will you tell me what I should do next with my life?
No. But I will cheer you on as we help you decide.
Why is divorce so emotionally devastating even when I know it was the right decision?
Divorce activates the same attachment and survival systems as trauma and loss. Even when the decision is necessary, your nervous system experiences the rupture as a threat to safety, belonging, and identity. EFIT works directly with this response instead of trying to talk you out of it.
Is it normal to feel emotionally unstable during divorce?
Yes. Mood swings, anxiety, numbness, rage, grief, and confusion are common during divorce. You might experience severe swings between relief and rage, peace and feeling deeply unsure. Emotional instability is your nervous systems way of finding your new normal. Unfortunately, it can be deeply isolating.
Why can’t I stop thinking about my marriage or my ex?
Rumination during divorce is often your attachment system trying to make sense of a relational rupture. When our minds fixate it means there is more to explore. EFIT helps quiet this loop by addressing the emotional injury underneath it.
What if I feel like divorce broke something in me?
Then I want to know how it feels to feel broken. Positive thinking won't take away the real grief you're feeling. I want to help you be curious about why you feel that way. What's that tender spot inside of you? That is where your true power lies - even if right now it feels the opposite of powerful place.
Can individual therapy help if my divorce was high-conflict or traumatic?
Yes. EFIT is especially effective for individuals navigating high-conflict divorce, ongoing legal stress, or emotionally abusive dynamics. Having an ally as you navigate boundaries, co-parenting, and memories helps reduce your emotional load. I'll be in it with you even when the external situation remains difficult.
How is Emotionally Focused Individual Therapy different from traditional divorce counseling?
Traditional divorce counseling often focuses on coping skills, insight, or problem-solving. Many therapist are cognitive or insight focused. Insight can be helpful but processing emotionally is where true revision begins. EFIT focuses on emotional processing and attachment repair, helping your nervous system feel safer so real, lasting change can occur.
Do I need divorce therapy if I’m already functioning at work and in daily life?
Many people seeking divorce therapy are outwardly successful and inwardly overwhelmed. Functioning does not mean you are healed. Therapy can help you address what you’re carrying beneath the surface before it shapes your future relationships.
Can divorce therapy help me trust myself again?
Yes. A central goal of EFIT is restoring self-trust. This includes trusting your emotions, your perceptions, and your ability to make relational decisions even with fear or self-doubt.
Will therapy help me understand my role in the divorce without blaming myself?
Yes. EFIT helps you understand relational patterns with compassion and clarity, not shame. Two people make and can break a marriage. You have a role in the ending of your relationship but not the sole responsibility. We need to help you consider forgiving yourself, learning what is your responsibility and what is not, and changing patterns so that any future relationships are healthier.
How long does it take to emotionally recover from divorce?
I wish I could give you a timeline. If you're impatient, we'll start our work there.
What if I’m afraid that talking about my divorce will make things worse?I never want you working beyond your window of tolerance. I might gently push to expand that window, but you always have full control over how far we go. My goal is to help you find the flexibility you can muster so your emotional tool bag grows, giving you more ways to respond, cope, and thrive.
Is this therapy about fixing me?
No. Divorce therapy is not about fixing you. It is about helping you understand and heal from an attachment injury so it becomes a part of your story - not your whole story.
Quiet Places in Newton, Massachusetts to Relax and Find Thinking Space
Here are some local places in Newton where you can slow down, breathe deeply, and give yourself the space to think, reflect, and reset your mind — from natural green spaces to cozy cafes and bakeries with a peaceful vibe.
Nature & Green Spaces
Perfect for reflective walks, quiet journaling, or just sitting with your thoughts.
Nahanton Park – A spacious riverside park with walking trails, peaceful fields, and nature all around — ideal for long, reflective walks or sitting quietly by the Charles River.
Charles River Canoe & Kayak – If you want to be on the water, try kayaking or paddleboarding here for a different kind of calming, contemplative experience.
Cafes & Cozy Spots
These are great for a slow cup of coffee or tea while you think, write, or just unplug for a bit.
Tatte Bakery & Cafe | Newton Centre – A beloved cafe and bakery with plenty of seating, perfect for sitting with a latte and writing in your journal during a thinking break.
Pressed Cafe – Open early to late with a relaxed vibe, healthy options, and space to breathe — a good choice when you want a nourishing pause with coffee or juice.
Luna's Cakes & Coffee – A cozy, quiet place for coffee and a sweet treat — great for slow thinking in a gentle setting.
SALT Patisserie – Excellent pastries and calm seating make this a lovely stop for reflection or journaling.
