Breath by breath, boundary by boundary: Healing your spirit through a high-conflict divorce.
Therapy for High-Conflict Divorce in Massachusetts, Connecticut, Washington, and Florida.
You’re Not Crazy. You’re Exhausted.
There is a very specific kind of bone-deep tired that comes from trying to reason with someone who treats every conversation like a war.
Right now, your life probably feels like a series of braced impacts. You check your phone with a pit in your stomach. Every email from your attorney or text from your ex sends a jolt straight to your chest. You spend your drives home replaying arguments, drafting responses in your head to things that shouldn't even need explaining, and wondering how the hell a life you built ended up in a pile of legal bills and hostility.
The worst part isn't even the conflict itself. It’s the isolation of it.
It’s watching someone lie with absolute confidence while you sit there holding the truth, wondering if anyone else sees what's actually happening. It’s the feeling that you’re slowly losing your footing, your edge, and your sense of who you were before all of this took over your life. Right now you need a solid place to land.
You need someone who gets the reality of what you're up against, who won't flinch at the mess, and who will help you keep your head clear so you can protect your life, your kids, and your sanity.
This isn't about fixing him. It’s about making sure he doesn't take the rest of you with him.
Therapy for High-Conflict Divorcein MA, CT, and Fl.
There Is a Way Through This
You may not recognize yourself right now. You used to be decisive, confident, and good at handling whatever life threw your way. Now, you second-guess yourself. You lose sleep over what to say, what not to say, and what he might do next. You're grieving the marriage you thought you had, the future you imagined, and the version of yourself who didn't have to think this hard just to get through an ordinary day.
But this chapter does not get to define the rest of your life.
You can learn to stop getting pulled into every argument. You can begin to trust your own judgment again, even when someone is determined to make you doubt it. You can make difficult decisions without spending days agonizing over every possible outcome. And little by little, you can reclaim the energy, confidence, and sense of self that have been buried beneath the conflict.
That doesn't mean you won't have hard days. There may be more grief, more uncertainty, and more decisions you never wanted to make. But you don't have to face all of it at once, and you don't have to figure it all out on your own.
In therapy, we'll make room for what you're grieving while helping you find your footing in what's happening now. We'll work on understanding the patterns that keep you caught in conflict, responding in ways that protect your peace, and making choices that reflect who you want to be - not just what the situation demands of you.
You cannot control how he behaves, what he says, or whether he ever sees things differently. But you can build a life in which his reactions no longer determine how you feel about yourself or how you move through your day.
You are still in there. The woman who knows her own mind, who can laugh without feeling guilty, who can make a decision and sleep at night.
You haven't lost her forever. And you don't have to wait until the divorce is over to begin finding your way back to yourself.
Let's start there.
Frequently Asked Questions About Therapy for Divorce
How is individual therapy after divorce different from just "plain old" individual therapy?
Because this isn’t just about coping. It’s about reclaiming yourself.
Standard individual therapy often helps people manage symptoms - stress, sadness, anxiety. But therapy after divorce is about deep reconstruction. It’s identity work, attachment repair, and nervous system recalibration - all at once. It’s where we rebuild your inner architecture after a seismic emotional event.
Here’s where my background matters.
I’ve spent over two decades working as a couples therapist - in the trenches with relationships that were breaking, healing, or ending. I understand the anatomy of connection: how two people shape each other, the cycles that keep love alive or tear it apart, the way loss and longing sit side by side. So when we work together individually, you’re not getting generic coping skills - you’re getting someone who can help you understand what happened between you and them and what’s happening now inside you.
As an Emotionally Focused Individual Therapist (EFIT), I don’t just teach tools; I help you transform the emotional patterns underneath. We slow things down so you can feel - really feel - what’s been buried under years of adapting, performing, or caretaking. We trace how those attachment injuries show up in your body, your boundaries, your self-talk, your choices. And then, piece by piece, we build something steadier.
And yes - being an older woman with a full, complex life means I bring something else to the room: perspective. You don’t have to explain the ache of starting over, the exhaustion of always being the strong one, or the quiet panic of asking “Who am I now?” I’ve lived long enough to know that endings can be brutal - and also deeply liberating.
So, this isn’t “plain old” therapy.
I don’t feel sad - I feel pissed. Or flat. Or totally fine until I’m crying in the grocery store. One day I’m unstoppable; the next I’m a puddle. Will therapy even help?
Absof***inglutely.
In our work, we don’t try to “fix” those swings - we follow them. I want you to be BFF with your inner world. Because underneath the rage is grief. Beneath the numbness is overwhelm. And buried in both is the part of you that’s fighting to come back online.
I use Emotionally Focused Individual Therapy (EFIT) to help you make sense of that chaos - not by managing emotions, but by translating them. Your anger? It’s your boundary system saying - no more! Your numbness? It’s your body trying to protect you from overload. Every feeling has intelligence - and once we decode it, you start to feel powerful again.
How long does therapy usually last?
Every person’s process is different (helpful, right?). Some people want a short-term, focused container for a specific issue. Others choose to stay longer and do deeper identity work. We’ll discuss what fits your needs and check in regularly so therapy relevant to your goals.
What if I’m afraid of being judged - for staying too long, leaving, or how I handled things?
People rarely go through divorce neatly. You may carry shame, regret, anger, or even relief. All of it belongs here. My role is to help you understand your emotional logic - not to squash it.
What if I don’t know what I want yet - just that something needs to change?
That’s often exactly where people start. Getting up every morning just isn't enough anymore. You're ready to figure out what's next in your big, beautiful life.
Do you assign homework?
Nope. Although, I might make suggestions from time to time to help you get out of a rut, but not with a worksheet or a thought exercise.
How do I now you're the right therapist for me?
I’m sassy, seasoned, and somewhat wise. I don’t shy away from helping you hover over the places you usually rush past. I want to be right there with you as you start figuring out - maybe for the first time - what you actually want your life to look like.
I’ve been lovingly called a heat-seeking missile because I don’t let my clients breeze past the hurt or the heartache. I know it’s uncomfortable to linger there, but I also know - deep in my bones - that’s where your healing lives.
I bring extensive training in attachment theory, identity, and Emotionally Focused Therapy to help you make sense of your patterns and rebuild from the inside out.
Will we talk about legal, financial, or parenting issues?
We won’t be crunching numbers or reading custody agreements - but we will talk about how all of that lands in your body and your mind. The sleepless nights before a court date, the sting of Venmo-ing your ex, the whiplash of co-parenting when you can barely look at each other - yeah, that’s therapy territory.
ONLINE IN ALL OF MA, CT, WA, & FL
Therapy for Women and
High-Conflict Divorce
I provide online therapy for women navigating high-conflict divorce, relationship breakdown, and the emotional upheaval of deciding what comes next. I work with women throughout Massachusetts, including Newton, Cambridge, and Boston, as well as Connecticut, Washington, and Florida.
If you're exhausted by ongoing conflict, struggling to communicate with your spouse, or trying to find clarity in a relationship that has become increasingly painful, therapy can help you slow down, understand what's happening, and decide how you want to move forward.
Whether you're facing a difficult separation, struggling with betrayal or broken trust, or feeling overwhelmed by the decisions ahead, I offer a space to work through the emotional complexity of your situation and move toward greater clarity and confidence.
Online therapy makes specialized support accessible wherever you are in Massachusetts, Connecticut, Washington, or Florida - without adding another commute to your already-full life.