You Have a Lot You Can't Say Out Loud.
Therapy for Women Who've Had an Affair in Massachusetts, Connecticut, Washington, and Florida.
You have thoughts about your marriage you would never say out loud at dinner with your friends. Feelings you're afraid to admit, even to yourself. Maybe you're attracted to someone else, you've already crossed a line, or you're wondering what it would feel like to be wanted, desired, or understood by someone who isn't your partner. Maybe you're so unhappy in your marriage or relationship that you're starting to question everything, including whether you still want to be in it.
And the hardest part? You don't know what any of it means yet. You can love your partner and still feel desperately lonely. You can feel guilty about your choices and angry about what has been missing for years. You can want to save your marriage one day and want to walk away the next, all while keeping up appearances and carrying questions you wouldn't dare share with the people closest to you.
And then there's the guilt, the confusion, the anger, the longing, and the questions that keep circling in your head when no one else is around. How did I get here? What am I looking for that I can't seem to find in my marriage? Do I want to fix this, or am I just afraid of what happens if I don't? What if I don't want what everyone expects me to want? You might have moments when you desperately want to save your marriage and others when the thought of trying to repair it leaves you exhausted. You may not even know what you want yet, only that something has to change.
You can say all of it here. The thoughts you're ashamed of, the feelings that don't make sense, the resentment you've been swallowing, the desires you've been pushing away, and the truth you're afraid would change how the people you love see you. It's time to be honest with yourself. You're a complex emotional being who is doing the best she can. I'm here to help you sort through it all so your beautiful emotions become the driving force in your decision making. Let's explore them all and find out who you are and what you want.
Therapy for Women Who've Had an Affair in MA, CT, WA, & FL
You Don't Have to Stay Stuck in Your Own Head
One day you're drowning in guilt, wondering how you could feel this way about someone else when you have a whole life and a whole marriage to consider. The next, you're wondering if these feelings are telling you something you've been trying not to see for years. You're caught between the life you've built and the pull toward something you can't quite explain, feeling untethered from the person you thought you were and the future you thought you wanted. You want to trust yourself, but your emotions keep shifting beneath your feet, leaving you desperate to understand what's happening and what it means for your life.
I will help you make sense of what feels impossible to untangle on your own. We'll get beneath the attraction, the guilt, the resentment, the longing, and the unhappiness that may have been building long before someone else entered the picture. We'll examine what this connection means to you, what your relationship has been missing, and what you may have been pushing aside in yourself. You can bring the thoughts you're ashamed of, the feelings that contradict each other, and the questions you haven't dared to ask out loud. Together, we'll move beyond the endless mental replay and get to the heart of what's happening, so you can understand yourself and your relationship in a way you simply can't when you're stuck inside your own head.
I'll help you get out of your head and understand what's really happening beneath the emotional chaos. Our work gives you the freedom to be completely honest about what you're feeling, so you can stop going around in circles and start trusting yourself to decide what comes next.
Frequently Asked Questions About Therapy for Women Who've Had an Affair in MA, CT, WA, & FL
Can I go to therapy if I've had an affair and haven't told my partner?
Yes. Individual therapy gives you a safe space to explore all your feelings - the nasty and the kind. I can hold them all with you.
What if I had an emotional affair, sexted someone, or only thought about cheating?
You don't have to wait until a physical affair happens to seek support. Emotional intimacy outside your relationship, secret messages, sexting, or recurring thoughts about someone else can raise important questions about desire, boundaries, unmet needs, and relationship satisfaction. Therapy can help you understand what's happening before deciding what it means for your future.
What if I told my partner about the affair and now everything is falling apart?
You were brave to disclose. Disclosing everything all at once is painful but we know that doing so results in the best outcomes for couples who want to repair. Stay with it. Therapy can help you maintain your courage and your commitment to honesty even when it's devastating. Good people have affairs.
How can I talk about infidelity in therapy without being judged?
These hours are for you. I want to know everything you're feeling. This is your time, I'm here to support you.
Why do I feel so alone after having an affair?
Infidelity can be isolating, particularly when you're afraid friends or family will judge you or pressure you to make a particular decision. Even if your partner knows, you may feel unable to talk openly about how you feel. You might feel like you have no right for have any feelings because you are the one who stepped away. You have every right and I'll remind you that your feelings are just as valid as your partner's.
How do I know if I need individual therapy or couples therapy after an affair?
Couples therapy assumes both of you are committed to repair. If you're not both fully committed, the process will stall. Individual therapy is more appropriate if you're unsure and need a guide to help you decide what you want.
I'm also a highly trained couples therapist, but if I see you in individual therapy, I cannot then provide couples therapy for you and your partner. I can, however, refer you to a very capable couples therapist.
Therapy for Women in
MA, CT, WA, & FL.
Therapy for Women Who've Had an Affair in MA, CT, WA, & FL
Maybe you never imagined you'd be the woman who crossed that line. Or maybe you feel like your relationship was emotionally dead before the affair. Maybe you've spent months trying to make sense of how it happened, what it means about your marriage, or what you're supposed to do now. You need a place to be honest about what to do.
I provide online individual therapy for women who've had an affair in as well as guilt, grief, and difficult decisions about their relationships in Massachusetts, Connecticut, Washington, and Florida.
Massachusetts – Boston – Cambridge – Worcester – Springfield – Lowell – Newton – Somerville – Brookline – Quincy – Framingham – Waltham – Lexington – Needham – Andover – throughout Massachusetts
Connecticut – Hartford – New Haven – Stamford – Norwalk – Greenwich – Westport – Fairfield – Glastonbury – Simsbury – throughout Connecticut
Washington – Seattle – Bellevue – Redmond – Kirkland – Tacoma – Spokane – Olympia – Bellingham – Vancouver – throughout Washington
Florida – Miami – Tampa – Orlando – Jacksonville – St. Petersburg – Naples – Sarasota – Boca Raton – Fort Lauderdale – throughout Florida
Therapy gives you the time and focus you need to figure out what's next.